As much as I love Gary Vee, this is where we come up at opposite ends, because as much as he is correct in saying you have more than enough time to be who you want to be, I disagree with the idea that at age thirty-six you are still a baby.

Once you've passed age thirty, you should have your foot on the gas and be going full speed ahead.

That isn't me saying you should have it all figured out, because newsflash, nobody ever has it all figured out. However, you should definitely know enough to make quick decisions, even if they don't take you to your destination.

Of course, this is all relative to what you want out of life. If your dream is to live what society would deem as a pretty average and ordinary life of clocking in, clocking out, one holiday a year, see a friend on the Saturday, spend Sundays with family and then the routine starts all over again, then yes, you do have plenty of time to figure it out.

For those who want to live an extraordinary life, one where you live in your dream home in the UK, with perhaps an apartment in Tribeca, driving a Rolls-Royce Cullinan, which you park in the Harrods car park for some retail therapy on an average Wednesday, before heading over to the Peninsula to check in with clients on a Zoom call who you only have to communicate with once a week leaving the rest of the week free to do whatever you want such as travelling everywhere between Tokyo, Switzerland and Rio all because you spent a few years building systems that run on autopilot…that needs your attention, now!

Why would you wait? Why would you slow down?

I think it may have happened somewhere between the rise of wellness culture and the conversation around burnout when the idea of 'you're not behind' became a method of self-soothing. And who knows, perhaps my disagreement with that notion makes this article a toxic one.

Yet, we started treating the idea of speeding towards our dream life as a problem, as if moving aggressively to what we want is a symptom of disaster, but what is the alternative?

In this article, we'll explore why speed, real speed, the kind that comes from knowing what to do next rather than panicking, is still one of the best advantages ambitious women have, and why the shift toward accepting delay has cost us more than we want to admit

I still find it hard to believe that the term ‘likeable’ holds any weight because only the people who like you think you are ‘likeable’.

Your sister might think you’re the bestest friend a girl could ever have and will therefore tell her friends, her work colleagues and even extended family members how likeable you are. But let’s think about the friends you fell out with over the pandemic, or the boss you just can’t see eye to eye with, or your mother-in-law who swears that her precious son could do better.

Do they think you’re likeable?

See, likeable people usually end up on my suspect list because what that usually means is that you’re agreeable, negotiable, easy to digest.

And don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with that. However, it does set you up to be overlooked.

There comes a point when being ‘likeable’ starts to cost more than it gives.

You notice it in the colleague who interrupts you mid-sentence, the photographer who offers you exposure instead of payment, and the friend who always assumes your time is free whenever they come calling.

Unfortunately, opportunities do not come calling for women who do not take themselves seriously.

They may compliment you, they may admire your personality, they may even follow you online, but admiration alone doesn’t translate into influence, power or at the very least, respect.

In this article, I’ll walk you through why the world has confused ‘likeable’ and ‘relatable’ with relevant, how soft branding keeps women trapped in the middle ground, visibility, and how you can shift into being seen and paid as a woman with presence, authority and weight.

Tell me, how many times have you heard people talk about the importance of a morning routine?

They say, “Do something that motivates you, moves you and”)…I can’t remember the other one.

But the point is, there’s a lot of focus on how to improve on the routine that take place first thing in the morning...

What you’re not being told is that the most important routine of the day is the one that takes place moments before you close your eyes to sleep.

Not only is it the most important, but it’s also when the time of the day the magic is most likely to take place. As your body starts to rest, your brain is at its most receptive, sorting memories, reinforcing habits, and priming itself for action as soon as your eyes reopen

What you do in these final hours of the day doesn’t just influence sleep, it programs your tomorrow.

In this article, I will show you how to turn nighttime into your ultimate advantage. To prime your mind, body and environment so that you wake up feeling in control, with direction, confidence, precision, and finally stop saying “I need to get back on track” every Monday.

From sensory rituals that bring comfort to your body to strategic prep. This isn’t just a routine, it’s a blueprint for waking up feeling unstoppable.

Keep reading because mastering the night is how you wake up like a CEO, not just to get through the day.

One concept I encourage women to move away from is this idea of being ‘likeable’ simply because it’s a relative term, one that society tries to influence us to become, mainly to find success in both romantic and platonic relationships.

But you are only likeable to the people who like you.

And let’s face it, you play a different character in everyone’s story. To your mother, you are Princess Jasmine, and to your mother-in-law, you are Ursula.

Not only that, you can’t be respected if you’re more concerned with being understood. It’s one of the hardest lessons we as women have to learn, but only when you truly grasp this message can you step into your power.

Because what’s the alternative?

Spending years over-explaining yourself, shrinking your intelligence to fit in rooms you’ve outgrown just to make those around you comfortable, even though you are talented, kind and hardworking, as you pay the cost of still feeling invisible?

That can’t be life? That’s not living, that’s surviving.

The women who can command a life they feel in control of know that power and visibility aren’t granted, it’s engineered.

In this article, I’ll break down the subtle shifts and five power plays that make a woman impossible to ignore - in circles, in rooms, in relationships, in entire industries.

But before we get into that, ask yourself one question:

If someone else looked at your life from the outside, right now, would they instantly know you’re the main character?

Lord, I’m going to lose my mind if I see one more person on their way to another Pilates class, tightly gripping a mint coloured smoothie, with the mat rolled up under their armpit as they struggle to find a balance between their fingers in the other hand to take the selfie no one asked for to pretend to their followers that these are the morning habits that make up their routine.

When, in reality, they are trying to signal to others that they have their life together, but deep down they want to crumble inside because it doesn’t feel like fun.

You don’t have to do it.

You don’t need a 4am start, a colour-coded calendar, or a morning matcha to change your life. It’s not necessary.

What you need to stop doing is pretending you’re someone you’re not, because this is the exact reason why so many women are failing to build habits that align with their highest version. Not because they’re lazy, but because they are performing.

Building habits that stick doesn’t require you to do everything, everywhere, all at once (great film by the way, would recommend).

The most you need to do is lace your trainers up, and that’s it. One small act that signals you’re changing. Adding more vegetables to the plate. One simple act you’re changing. Not feeling pressured to respond to a text message as soon as you receive it, in case the other person thinks you’re ignoring them. One simple act you’re changing.

Because most people never quite realise, the transformation isn’t in what you’re doing, it’s in how you think about what you’re doing and how many times you can do it.

In this article, I’ll show you how to build habits that feel natural, sustainable, and deeply aligned with who you are becoming, not who Lizzy Online told you to be. If you’re tired of the pattern of stop-start-stop-start, then keep reading because this might be the last time you have to.

Everything feels like water off a duck’s back.

They’re not clock-watching anyone else’s timeline. They’re not panic-scrolling through social media, suffering from FOMO. They’re not scrambling to play ‘catch up’ to society’s ideals.

In fact, the women who never feel behind move forward with often a subtle authority over their lives. Not to say they don’t understand the art of urgency, but they know exactly when to speed up, when to slow down and when to shut the noise out completely.

They’re not waiting on luck or scouring TikTok for the latest manifestation tips. Instead, their attention is given to a curation of their daily habits and actions that allow them to elevate.

In this article, I will break down the exact routines these kinds of women embody. The routines that keep them moving forward without constantly looking over their shoulder, while everyone is running in circles.

If you’ve ever wondered why some woman seem so certain their lives are unfolding exactly as they planned, you’ll want to read this until the end. Because once you see how they do it, you’ll never look at your own routines in the same way again.

Congratulations! You’ve made it to the point of the year where we start freaking out about what we have and haven’t done this year, routines start to slip, energy begins to feel drained, and the certainty that you were about to become a billionaire off the idea you had back in March suddenly doesn’t seem so certain.

Finding composure in moments like this feels damn near impossible, and they aren’t found by pretending everything is fine. They’re found by learning how to sit and accept the chaos without letting your entire being be consumed by it.

In this article, I will share practical ways to stay composed when everything feels like it’s falling apart. You’ll even see me offer the forbidden advice of returning to square one, as well as the exact shift that will allow you to get back up and stand tall in the middle of the sand storm, even when everything else is falling apart.