39. How To Stay Composed When Everything Is Falling Apart
Congratulations! You’ve made it to the point of the year where we start freaking out about what we have and haven’t done this year.
Routines start to slip, energy begins to feel drained, and the certainty that you were about to become a billionaire off the idea you had back in March suddenly doesn’t seem so certain.
Finding composure in moments like this feels damn near impossible, and they aren’t found by pretending everything is fine. They’re found by learning how to sit and accept the chaos without letting your entire being be consumed by it.
In this article, I will share practical ways to stay composed when everything feels like it’s falling apart.
You’ll even see me offer the forbidden advice of returning to square one, as well as the exact shift that will allow you to get back up and stand tall in the middle of the sand storm, even when everything else is falling apart.
Go Back To Square One: Self-Care
Very rarely would I advise you to take an all round trip, a one-way ticket to the most thrilling version of yourself gives better results. However, if your square one means self-care, then I think it’s a plausible reason.
And the deeper reason is that self-care brings you back to you.
When your world feels like it’s collapsing, your first instinct might be to go harder, fix everything all at once or completely numb out. But self-care will have you taking care of yourself at the most basic level.
And of course I want you to book yourself into the spa at the Corinthia, or even an Omorovicza Blue Diamond Skin Therapy Session at the Harrods Beauty Salon but self-care means:
Eating food that fuels you rather than causes you fatigue
Getting enough sleep to allow your brain to function
Moving your body so stress doesn’t remain stuck in your system
Setting boundaries with people who want to pull more from you than you can give
A private member once told me she felt like a fraud because her productivity collapsed during a family crisis.
She thought she should have been able to ‘push through’ but what she actually needed was to rebuild her foundation. By prioritising rest, nourishment, and gentle structure, she found clarity returning, slowly at first, but steadily.
Ask yourself: What’s the one non-negotiable I’ve been neglecting in my self-care and how can I restore it?
Remember Why You Wanted To Change In The First Place
Now, it’s difficult to see clearly when everything is falling apart. The frustration of it all makes you forget why you’ve even put yourself through this journey at all. But reconnecting to the original reason you wanted change can ignite your drive.
Maybe you started building a business because you wanted financial freedom. Maybe you began a fitness journey because you wanted to feel strong in your body again. Maybe you committed to a morning routine because you wanted structure before being swamped by the day-to-day whirlwind.
When life throws you sideways, it’s easy to lose that spark of excitement, but going back to the ‘why’ restores perspective.
Write your ‘why’ down where you can see it.
Remind yourself that setbacks don’t erase your progress, they test your commitment.
See yourself in the bigger picture so the small failures don’t feel so loud.
Ask yourself: What would happen if I gave up now? Do I still want the same outcome, and if yes, what would the future version of me thank me for doing today?
Break Your Goals Down into Smaller Chunks
Ever so slightly contradictory to my last point but stay with me.
Occasionally, we become overwhelmed because we’re too focused on the picture that we completely forget the smaller steps it takes to get there.
Look at the bigger picture yes, but then step back and acknowledge the little steps it will take to reach it.
For example:
Instead of “get my life together,” start with “make my bed every morning.”
Instead of “grow my business,” start with “reach out to three people today.”
Instead of “fix my health,” start with “drink two extra glasses of water daily.”
By doing this, you’re not lowering your standards, you’re building momentum again. Just like what we learn in our investment webinars to become millionaires, small steps compound into big results, and they rebuild trust in yourself.
Ask yourself: What’s one step I could take today that would make me feel a little more in control?
Protect Your Environment
Pay attention, your environment is either enabling the chaos or calming it. If everything feels like it’s falling apart, look at what surrounds you.
Is your physical space cluttered, magnifying the noise in your mind?
Are you spending time with people who fuel your stress rather than help you steady yourself?
Are you scrolling through feeds that spark comparison and pressure, rather than inspiration?
Sometimes staying composed means closing the door, unfollowing the wrong accounts, and creating silence around you so you can actually breathe.
Ask yourself: What in my current environment feels heavy or draining?
Choose Progress Over Perfection
When life geels as though it will never come together, you might freeze because you can’t do things in the way you would want to the standard you believe is best. But staying composed means shifting your mindset from perfection to progress.
That might look like:
Doing a 20-minute walk around the block instead of waiting to fit in a 90-minute session.
Scribbling a messy page of thoughts instead of waiting for the perfect words.
Showing up before you feel ready in your work instead of disappearing completely.
This keeps you moving forward instead of spiralling into guilt and self-punishment. And in crisis seasons, forward momentum is the win.
Ask yourself: What does ‘good enough’ look like today, and can I let that be enough?
Finally
When everything feels like it’s falling apart, composure is not about control. It’s about creating stability inside of it.
Going back to self-care, remembering your original why, breaking down the overwhelm into smaller pieces, protecting your environment, and choosing progress over perfection are not the sexiest strategies, but they are powerful ones.
You don’t need to have everything figured out right now. You just need to make it impossible for yourself to stay stuck.
