10. The Success Routine That Rewires Your Brain for Abundance
Sometimes you’re lucky.
And sometimes you’ve just done an excellent job on gaining a narrative over your thoughts, habits, and subconscious beliefs.
When I first started diving into personal development, I thought success was about effort, strategy, and discipline. And while those things do matter, I later realised a deeper truth:
Your external reality is a mirror of your internal programming.
Most people try to achieve success by working harder, pushing through resistance, or forcing themselves into new habits. But you can’t change an effect without changing the cause…
And so if your subconscious mind is wired for scarcity, self-doubt, or struggle, you’ll always hit an invisible ceiling, no matter how much action you take.
The real transformation happens when you rewire your brain to expect, embody, and attract abundance as your natural state.
I’m not just talking about a nutritious breakfast or going for the old walk around the block, after writing a few gratitude points in your journal, I mean, consistently engaging in a mental reprogramming that shifts your neural pathways and creates lasting change.
In this article, I’m sharing the exact routine that helped me change my mind, quite literally, attract opportunities, and step into my highest self.
*1. Abundance Starts With What You Expect
Most people don’t realise that your life is a feedback loop of your expectations. Abraham Hicks often talks about expecting miracles and you will be lead to them. This means:
If you expect things to be hard, they will be.
If you expect money to come only through struggle, it will.
If you expect success to take years, it will.
Your brain filters reality through the Reticular Activating System (RAS) a network in your brainstem that acts like an algorithm for your subconscious mind. It deletes everything that doesn’t align with your beliefs and highlights everything that does.
I started doing this on purpose, I became conscious about what I was calling in. I began assuming money, opportunities, and success were already in motion.
And within weeks, I saw the shift in random payments, effortless content ideas, and ideas in how I could be of more service to my community. Not because I worked harder, but because I expected something different.
Action step:
Every morning, assume something amazing is already on its way to you. Say it out loud.
“Today, I expect to gain clarity on how to improve my health”
Watch how your brain starts finding proof of it.
2. Break the Identity Loop
If you struggle to attract success, it's not because you're incapable, it's because you're stuck in an identity loop.
This is otherwise known as your self-concept. It’s the perception you have about yourself which funnel through to your beliefs, your attention, your habits and your emotionally charged thoughts.
Here’s how the loop works:
You place your attention on something (e.g. I’m in my 30’s and still single)
You create a belief (e.g., “Dating gets harder as you get older”).
You act according to that belief (Self-sabotage, engaging in conversations about how hard dating is).
Your brain looks for proof (You see other people in their 30 struggling to date, you meet disingenuous dating partners, you get your hopes up and then eventually let down).
The cycle repeats.
When I first launched Kitaka, it took what felt like forever to see my sales go up which caused me to believe I just wasn’t meant to do this. I thought I was “bad at business” I’d overthink posts, delay newsletters, and downplay what I was capable of.
My brain needed that belief to stay true, so it created behaviours which often felt amplified because I so badly wanted to see this change, but this feeling kept me stuck. The only way out was to shatter that identity before the results changed.
Action step:
Every day, practice saying:
“I am someone who follows through.”
“I am a person who attracts opportunities easily.”
“I create wealth effortlessly.”
You must become the version of yourself, mentally, even before you see proof, you must claim it.
Only then will your actions will start shifting to match.
3. Talk to Your Subconscious Like a Friend, Not an Enemy
I often talk about your subconscious mind as your assistant, meaning no matter what you decide, it always thinks you’re right, which can be annoying because sometimes we don’t know what’s good for us, and although we think we’re making a great decision to benefit our future, it’s actually a detriment to it.
But your subconscious mind is not your enemy. It’s just steeped in loyalty, doing exactly what it thinks you want, based on your repeated thoughts.
So, if you constantly tell yourself:
“I’m so behind.”
“I don’t know if this will work.”
“I need to figure this out soon.”
“Time is running out”
Your subconscious takes that as a command and ensures your reality reflects it.
Instead of battling my mind, I started talking to it differently:
“I appreciate you for keeping me safe, but we don’t have to struggle anymore.”
“We are allowed to receive money effortlessly.”
“We no longer chase success; we attract it.”
Action step:
Every night before bed, have a short conversation with your subconscious. Speak to it like you’re updating an assistant on new instructions. Your mind listens more than you realise.
4. Create "Success Anchors" in Your Environment
If you’ve ever felt stuck, uninspired, or blocked, look around; your environment might be repeating an old story back to you.
We’re often so focused on “Okay, what’s next?” We seem to take for granted the power our present holds
I noticed that certain objects in my space kept me tied to my past identity:
Old phones and gadgets I had been lazy about throwing out.
Books I kept but never read, reminding me of unfinished things.
Clothes from a time when I felt better in my body, which would force me to judge my current weight negatively.
So, I started anchoring my space for success:
I bought a new journal and told myself, “This is where I document my new reality.”
I rearranged my room to feel more expensive, you know, small changes, big energy shifts.
I deleted old files, emails, and notes that represented old thinking patterns.
Sent clothes from my old identity to a charity shop, because the version I’m becoming is happy with her body at every stage
Action step:
Look around. What’s tied to your old identity? Phone numbers and text messages from friends and flings of the past, diaries of old stories that you'd rather forget, gifts from your childhood sweetheart, emails from managers at a job you left in 2015.
It’s time to move on.
Remove one object today that keeps you tied to an old identity. Replace it with something that represents the version of you who already has what you want.
5. The Power of ‘Acting as If’ - But for Your Nervous System
“Act as if” is one of the most misunderstood concepts. Most people interpret it as pretending, buying things they can’t afford or faking confidence they don’t feel.
Girl, you’re not fooling anyone, not because you’re faking it, but because you’re forcing it. Manifestation flows. So should you.
Start normalising success, making it feel second nature and creating a safe zone within your nervous system. If abundance feels unnatural to you, your body will reject it.
So, instead of jumping into huge, unrealistic changes and spending your last £200 at Ralph Lauren to portray an image everyone can see through, start making abundance feel normal in small ways.
I learned this from Ed Mylett, he calls ‘touching your dream’ when you’re close enough, it begins to feel like it’s normal.
To implement this concept, I started:
✔ Sitting in luxury hotels, ordering a coffee, and working from my tablet, absorbing the energy of wealth surrounding me.
✔ Trying on expensive clothes, not to buy them, but to feel like they belonged to me.
✔ Driving around the neighbourhood of my dream home, imagining what it feels like to live there and what a usual day in the community looks like.
These small shifts made wealth and success familiar to my nervous system. And once something feels normal, it’s only a matter of time before it manifests.
Action step:
Spend 10 minutes today in an environment that reflects the abundance you desire. Not to force anything—just to let your body get used to it.
Finally…
Everything changed for me when I stopped chasing results and started shifting my identity first.
I don’t want to say I stopped caring, but I kind of did.
Instead of panicking about what wasn’t happening, I started to focus on who I was being.
If you want success, stop forcing it, reprogram your expectations.
If you want money, stop stressing about it, train your nervous system to feel safe with it.
If you want a new reality, stop trying to “make it happen”, instead step into the version of you who already has it.
Reality always catches up to the identity you hold. And the moment you shift, everything around you will follow.
Now, ask yourself:
What part of your current routine is keeping you tied to an old version of yourself?
What small shift can you make today to step into your next level?
Let me know in the comments, I’d love to hear your thoughts.
