30. How To Romanticise The Journey To Creating A New You
One thing is for sure, and that’s when you decide to become the best version of yourself, you will eventually return to the version of yourself that you don’t want to be.
Strong start, I know…
But, you need to know these things because if you’re not prepared, how will you overcome the hurdle when you finally approach it?
So, what’s the point? What’s the point of even starting this journey of trying to attract the life you want, the dream position on the corporate ladder, the seven-figure fashion business, the golden retriever husband, the Porsche, the five-bedroom home in Surrey, the class pass to the best Pilates sessions, the Matcha mornings…
Why are we doing any of it if eventually you’re going to go back to the version of yourself that you fantasise about escaping?
Because, despite only 8% of people ever realising their dreams, there is still a chance, and that chance depends on how much you can withstand the process, even after the novelty wears off.
There’s something exciting about starting something new.
New planners, new journal, new workout clothes, a new routine, a new Monday morning. The thrill of rebranding your entire existence, your identity, the way you think, your habits, your standards, and the way you show up for yourself.
But what about when the rush of dopamine falls off?
What happens when your friends are no longer clapping for your commitment to getting in shape? When does being the ‘new you’ become less of a performance and now just a way of life?
This is what no one talks about.
The boring part is when people return their attention to their own lives, achievements, and problems, and it’s just you and you. It’s the stage where it’s easier to go back to the version you know rather than continue with the version that seems a little unsure.
In this article, I’m going to share how to romanticise your rebrand to minimise the risk of returning to a version you no longer want to identify with.
Why Rebranding Gets Tedious
Most people hear the word ‘rebranding’ and think of a pop star changing their wardrobe, stylist and dying their hair from black to blonde. This isn’t that.
This is deleting outdated beliefs, tweaking toxic routines, and building a new internal operating system. I’ve said it in another article, I’ll say it again…It’s exhausting. And without emotional elevation, it becomes unsustainable.
Here’s why many women fall off mid-glow-up:
The process lacks pleasure
Discipline without any forms of romance starts to feel like punishment. You begin to associate your growth with grind, hustle and effort, as opposed to fun, ease, and elegance.No one’s watching anymore
We all love a round of applause, even the most self-assured woman likes to know they are admired for something. Once the hype dies down, and your Day 1 post is long buried in the feed, you realise no one is tracking your progress but you.Old habits are comfortable
Not because they work, but because they’re familiar. And when you're over it, tired or unseen, you crave comfort, not change.You're waiting to feel like 'her' before acting like her
And because you don’t yet feel like the upgraded version of yourself, you think you’re doing something wrong.
This is exactly why romanticising your rebrand isn’t optional. It’s necessary to get past this sticky phase.
Romanticising Is The Real Cheat Code
I’ve found that by romanticising the mundane tasks, the process of becoming my best version felt so much easier.
Find a way to make your life cinematic, create rituals instead of chores. You can do this by attaching emotion to the action, otherwise, you’re just doing a bunch of self-improvement tasks with no soul.
Here’s how you can start romanticising your rebrand.
Curate a Personal Soundtrack That Evolves with You
Don’t just play music. Create an evolving playlist that mirrors your transformation.
Make a playlist called “Who I Am”, and update it monthly with new tracks.
Use music to build emotional muscle memory. You’ll start associating certain songs with power, clarity, and identity upgrades.
Feel free to check my Femme Fatale Soundtrack, the playlist Iisten to when I want to feel like the baddest bitch walking
When that one track hits, you remember exactly who you are—and who you’re not going back to.
Name Your Current Era, And Make It Aesthetically Pleasing
Instead of saying “I’m working on myself.” Label this phase of your journey with an era
Call it The Bad Body Era or The Confidence Era
Use it as the name in your journal, your phone wallpaper, your passwords (yes).
Create a world around these eras, the way you speak, how you dress, the kind of content you consume, etc.
Naming the season turns your everyday into a narrative. And you’re not allowed to quit halfway through a good story.
Make Decisions That Feel Like Her
Every small decision is a fork in the road: old you or upgraded you?
Order the drink she would choose, not the one you always get.
Use elevated language when speaking to yourself, even internally. (“We’re not behind, we’re just in time.”)
Know when and where to choose silence over reacting. Where to Delayed gratification over performative urgency.
When your day is built from aligned micro-decisions, you don’t wake up as her, you realise you already are
Design an Invisible Identity Signature
Have something no one sees but you that reinforces who you’re becoming. For years, I had my vision board saved as my mobile phone wallpaper until one day it dawned on me…
If I’m living in the end, acting as if and no longer towards because I am, why would I have my wallpaper saved as a vision board? It would be a photo from my trip to Moncao, where I was having breakfast on the balcony at the Hotel de Paris, duh?
These are the finer details that are
A note inside your wallet with your money mantra.
A phrase at the top of your Notes app: “She doesn’t chase, she aligns.”
A secret shortcut on your phone that types out your core identity declaration.
This is about loyalty to your transformation, even when no one’s watching. Especially then.
It Doesn’t Have to Be Boring If You Make It Beautiful
There is a difference between things being boring and things being under-romanticised.
The new you isn’t built in the days when everything is exciting. She’s built in the lonely, lazy, low-energy moments where you choose to make magic out of the mundane.
Wanting to quit and go back to what and who you know makes you human. You want to fall back into who you used to be? That’s normal.
But if you want to collapse time and make your growth inevitable, you better learn how to romanticise every piece of it.
This is more than becoming a new version, it’s also making the journey as enjoyable, momentous as possible
And the sooner you make your life reflect that, the sooner she becomes real.
Questions You Should Ask Yourself
What would the rebrand of me look like if no one else could see it?
What parts of my current identity do I secretly feel loyal to?
Where am I waiting to feel something before I commit to becoming something?
What would happen if I built joy, power, and meaning into everything I’m doing—even the uncomfortable parts?
Am I designing a life that makes me feel… or just one that looks good online?
